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Comment on Your Structural Identity by Mel Malka » We Are Each Other

Mel Malka » We Are Each Other — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 17:56:44 +0000

[...] anyways someday so jump out of the plane, and oh yea — get a grip. You can reinvent yourself. You can be the chair without the back and still work fine, and sometimes the things that you don’t think will make you happy, are the ones that make you [...]

Comment on Brief Thoughts On Customer Service by KehillaMonster

KehillaMonster — Thu, 12 Aug 2010 17:52:47 +0000

Was it the tanning place? Same thing happened to me. She was quite haughty for being an Oompa Loompa.

Comment on Paul Zak Just Gave Me 3 Reasons To Never Get Married by KehillaMonster

KehillaMonster — Thu, 12 Aug 2010 17:52:06 +0000

I would let somebody marry me for a Green Card. My friend did that, and now he is a citizen. I would just make them pay me.

One reason to get married is kitchenware. I love cooking and baking, but I can’t afford the supplies. I’d do it for the Kitchenaid Stand Mixer alone.

Comment on Reasons I Can’t Be Considered A Grown Up: Ep. 1 — Lunchtime by Jeremy

Jeremy — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 00:38:33 +0000

Well then, you’ve pretty much summed up my entire existence. Good on you! =D

Comment on You Are a Grown Woman by Heather

Heather — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 22:15:25 +0000

I found you because of your comment on The Grown Man’s post today and just wanted to let you know that this was fabulous. You might also add that it’s never too late to grow up, either. #8 nailed it for me–still feeling like the queen of ‘analysis paralysis’ (I like that, btw), but it’s time to step away from the insanity and move ahead with bigger and better things. Well done.

Comment on Facebook Official by Mel

Mel — Sat, 12 Jun 2010 21:25:34 +0000

Ok I want to touch on a few things:

1) This whole post came from a conversation with a friend where he gave me a perspective that I was not too familiar with, namely that “announcing your relationship on Facebook” officializes and publicizes your commitment to someone else. His perspective was that “my relationship, although it could be ‘real’ was not made public for one reason or another” — whatever those reasons may be could vary between people. So in a way, what I felt he was saying (and correct me if I’m wrong and you read this) is that “you’re not taking my being in a relationship seriously because its not on Facebook”, right?

2) Another perspective that was brought to light to me today was from a different friend. Let’s say you were someone who had a fan base of some sort or you were using your online social networks to promote something (a business, a product, etc)…if say, you were cute girl/guy, would being “publicly” single make you more marketable? On the other hand, if that is the case, should your significant other feel any discomfort about that?

3) The more I think about it, I am starting to seriously view Facebook as the new “I Love You” — or whatever guideline people use for themselves to make a relationship “official”. Did you ever hear someone say that “It’s not cheating until…
…you’re using titles.
…you’ve said I love you.”
And so on…

Also, thanks for the emails, from those who wish to keep their thoughts private!

Comment on Facebook Official by Josh

Josh — Sat, 12 Jun 2010 18:44:37 +0000

Like Gayle, I also have mixed feelings on Facebook Official. It can be multifaceted in it’s uses and applications. Personally, I don’t have a relationship status on it. It can help to keep the pressure off when I am starting to date someone before anything is official, as well as quell unnecessary attention whenever my status changes. On the other hand, since I am not advertising when I’m single, it could have the possibility of giving perspective ladies the impression that I am not single. I do have some close female friends who post things on my wall which, to someone who does not know me very well, could be misinterpreted. When I am in a relationship I still would prefer to keep my status hidden, unless she really insists that I change it. Now that being said, I think a better alternative is changing the profile picture to one that has both you and girl/boyfriend in it.

Comment on Facebook Official by Samantha

Samantha — Sat, 12 Jun 2010 17:54:54 +0000

You know, I’ve had it go either way, where I was in a relationship, but didn’t announce it on Facebook, or I did. One time I had a boyfriend that said I should request it say I was in a relationship with him, but then his lame ass didn’t accept it for a month. Wtf? I knew one girl who was dating a guy that put up “In a relationship,” but not with whom, and it turns out he had like 3 girlfriends at once. I’ve also had a boyfriend before who put in a relationship with ME on his Facebook, yet he would hit on other girls via Facebook messages!!! I want to blame Facebook for being a bit poisonous and offering more temptation and complications, but really, I was probably just dating idiots in my past.

Comment on Facebook Official by Gayle

Gayle — Sat, 12 Jun 2010 16:55:54 +0000

I have mixed feelings. On one hand, I agree with the wedding ring analogy. I also think making it FBO also makes it everyone’s business. I don’t want the whole world to know whether or not I end a relationship. I also have seen girls in relationships realize they have been dumped because one morning they woke up and their boyfriend had taken down the relationship status. I think I’ll be keeping my relationship status to myself, and if anyone wants to know, they can ask me.

Comment on 7 More Tips On Being a Grown Woman by Adina

Adina — Sat, 05 Jun 2010 16:20:37 +0000

Nice work Mel! I like your style