When I wake up in the morning, I have expectations of how that day will go. But they’re not really expectations, they’re estimations and more importantly, they are within my control.

I decide whether its going to be a good day or a bad day and then I make it such. Some days, when I wake up with that heavy, deep-seated feeling of “this is not going to be a good day”, its harder to make it a good day. But, its still within my control.

Its different with people because people will always disappoint you. My ex-boyfriend used to say that he had no expectations, ever, and therefore no disappointment. I, on the other hand, let the buildup of excitement over something/someone happen, I let the expectation happen — but then the disappointment follows.

My argument was that I was always satisfied more than I was disappointed. That of 10 single events where it could go into the satisfaction/disappointment direction, say 8 out of 10 went well. 80%.

80% is a good number, 80% is a good value to allow yourself to build up an expectation for something.

But when you break down the stats to situations (work, for example) or people, the numbers are more easily manipulated. You can say, X person disappoints you 100% of the time…therefore, you need to either a) get rid of X person, or b) readjust your expectations. Sometimes its you and sometimes its them. If its 50/50, maybe its both of you. 50/50 is harder to figure out. And if you’re 100% satisfied, you shouldn’t change a thing.

If you were to change anything, the first things you should change are your expectations.